We’ll start off with just some observations about myself ignoring the MBTI framework.
I’ve known forever that I’m an introvert. Through middle/high school I felt obligated to be in social situations so I didn’t fall into the “weird social outcast” category in my mind. The way I see people is by who they’re similar too. When I saw the preppy student who appeared fake, they fell into a box. The nice prep who I got along with, another box. I find myself attracted to women who care a lot about others and make it very known that that’s their intent. These did not last long because communicating always became frustrating, they never seemed to have enough input and I would always end up faking emotion just to satisfy. I often found myself wanting everything to line up/be perfect until it becomes difficult, at which point it’s just a matter of getting something completed. Then in downtime I find it relaxing to line things up and make things even.
Now let’s apply the MBTI:
The people in all these “Boxes” tended to be the same or similar types. People I got along with were typically intuitive, big picture, types.
The women I dated or were attracted to were all sensing, typically extroverted.
I was expected to care about every detail and how that might affect something in the future where I always went down the logical “Is there anything I can do about this? Yes? Don’t worry. No? Don’t worry.”
I care about big picture first then switch to detail oriented if possible.